Decisions
When I was in my twenties I realized that there were only 2 things in life I could really control, on a good day; my attitude and my behavior. Then I realized I wasn’t really able to control my behavior because I could be unpredictable. So then I was down to one thing; my attitude. But what did that mean?
What happened to me wasn’t as important as what I did in response with what happened to me and how I used the experience. It got old and worn out being upset about anything and it didn’t seem to improve any situation for me either. I had to find things I could do that were productive to me. That meant making good decisions.
I stopped asking “Why?” That was a worthless question for me. Once a situation was over things had changed, so “Why?” wasn’t as useful to me as “How?” “How did that happen?” “How can I do things differently next time?” That was a better place for me to stand. I dig solid ground.
The other question I got a lot of mileage out of was “What?” “What is good about this happening?” “What can I learn from this?” “What was I thinking?” which led me in time to “Whatever” and knowing better next time. I do better when I stay light-hearted because serious energy is heavy and not as happy for me.
One of my favorite questions in difficulty is “Where’s the beauty in this?” I like to see the gift I’m receiving. That can take time depending on what’s going on. Some situations are longer than others. It’s almost like stepping into a math equation when I deal with people. Sometimes it’s basic math, a quick calculation and we’re done.
There have been other times when stepping into a situation meant a long, drawn out equation with sub levels and loops. I’m not a math wiz by any means, but I can tell when I’ve stepped into an advanced physics or calculus equation with someone because it doesn’t fit onto one chalkboard, it requires a ton of conversation and it seems to be endless.
The only way out of an equation is to come to an exit point of resolve, that point where the = sign shows up. Some people call that closure. I call that a breath of fresh air. That place where I can exit is a dream in some cases. I’ve learned to go through the motions with equations I’m in with people. Fighting it doesn’t change the fact that I’m in it.
I’m always grateful when I can recognize an old equation before I step into it. That saves me a lot of energy. Some long equations are special and wonderful. It depends on what components are involved that make up the equation. Usually the words someone uses in a conversation are a good indicator to me as to what kind of equation a person is in.
Blessings!
Laura
If you want to check out one of my equations, watch the video clip at: http://www.LauraCohnMusic.com
Where Music Meets Artistry
What happened to me wasn’t as important as what I did in response with what happened to me and how I used the experience. It got old and worn out being upset about anything and it didn’t seem to improve any situation for me either. I had to find things I could do that were productive to me. That meant making good decisions.
I stopped asking “Why?” That was a worthless question for me. Once a situation was over things had changed, so “Why?” wasn’t as useful to me as “How?” “How did that happen?” “How can I do things differently next time?” That was a better place for me to stand. I dig solid ground.
The other question I got a lot of mileage out of was “What?” “What is good about this happening?” “What can I learn from this?” “What was I thinking?” which led me in time to “Whatever” and knowing better next time. I do better when I stay light-hearted because serious energy is heavy and not as happy for me.
One of my favorite questions in difficulty is “Where’s the beauty in this?” I like to see the gift I’m receiving. That can take time depending on what’s going on. Some situations are longer than others. It’s almost like stepping into a math equation when I deal with people. Sometimes it’s basic math, a quick calculation and we’re done.
There have been other times when stepping into a situation meant a long, drawn out equation with sub levels and loops. I’m not a math wiz by any means, but I can tell when I’ve stepped into an advanced physics or calculus equation with someone because it doesn’t fit onto one chalkboard, it requires a ton of conversation and it seems to be endless.
The only way out of an equation is to come to an exit point of resolve, that point where the = sign shows up. Some people call that closure. I call that a breath of fresh air. That place where I can exit is a dream in some cases. I’ve learned to go through the motions with equations I’m in with people. Fighting it doesn’t change the fact that I’m in it.
I’m always grateful when I can recognize an old equation before I step into it. That saves me a lot of energy. Some long equations are special and wonderful. It depends on what components are involved that make up the equation. Usually the words someone uses in a conversation are a good indicator to me as to what kind of equation a person is in.
Blessings!
Laura
If you want to check out one of my equations, watch the video clip at: http://www.LauraCohnMusic.com
Where Music Meets Artistry
posted by Laura Cohn @ 4:11 PM
1 Comments:
At 7:25 PM,
Anonymous said…
I think that our behavior in hard to control considering that it is inherant and circumstantial. At some instances, we tend ot become the person we hated to be. It is just a matter of trying to sober at all times.
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